The Secret to a Happy 24-Year Marriage? It's in the Little Things!

The Secret to a Happy 24-Year Marriage? 

It's in the Little Things

Over the years, people have often asked me the secret to my marriage. My wife and I have been married for 24 years, a journey that began when we were just kids – I was 19, and she was 17. We also started our family early. While the cornerstone of our marriage has undoubtedly been our faith, with Jesus at the center, we also know that faith requires action. It requires effort.

There are countless things I could share about building a strong and happy marriage, but something struck me yesterday that I wanted to focus on.

I was dropping my wife off at the airport. As I parked, grabbed her luggage, and walked her to security, I was already feeling the pang of missing her. She was traveling for work, leaving me home with our youngest son. We'd be busy, sure, but I always feel a void when she's away.

At security, we said our goodbyes, shared a kiss, and she headed through. Now, most people would turn around at this point and head back to the parking garage. But I don't. I wait. I wait until she's safely through security, just to make sure everything is alright.

It's not that I'm worried something bad will happen. It's simply because I love her, and I want to see her off safely. Interestingly, I was the only one standing there watching. And no, this isn't her first time flying alone. We fly frequently – together, I fly for ministry, and she travels for work. Flying is a normal part of our lives now.

This seemingly small gesture is one of the little secrets to our marriage. We pay attention to the little things. Every time my wife leaves on a plane and returns home, it's like the first time. I miss her terribly when she's gone, and I'm always excited for her return. I typically wait for her at the concourse exit, often with flowers.

So, you want to know the secret to a happy, lasting marriage? It's love. I absolutely adore my wife. Pay attention to the little things, nurture those small moments of connection, and everything else will fall into place.

https://awakeningthesleepinggiant.podbean.com/e/episode-40-a-secret-to-a-happy-marriage/

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